I was under the impression that the general consensus was that it wasnt ok...
and I am actually 100% certain that i acknowledged what Arc said...
ah ok, I read it wrong actually, I wasn't really yelling at you :T it was more for the other people who would undoubtedly join the debate and get the wrong idea and ruin the conversation between us XD
and yeah if that was a one day thing, that would be something, I was just thinking this was a daily life thing, and if it is, then that is still pretty harsh with only an hour of free time. however, I can see that being the policy if she hadn't been doing her homework or something.
so... you can see why I would be frustrated why you are re-stating things under the assumption that I was still disagreeing and re-stating what Arcy said in a different and less preferable (to me) way.
We did come to a consensus BUT Kyu wasn't in the convo. This is a forum, he wasn't around at the time of the conversation and wants to share his own opinion on it too. Even if the topic is over, I think. XD
Which sounds good to me. XD
Also he was saying people judge without having all the facts. Even with the mistake you made I think it's still a harsh judgement without knowing all the facts. Though his was probably more of a general statement.
The post you quoted still suggests that you think you know better than a child's parents how that child should be raised if you think they're being harsh. That's what i'm getting at.
Also what you're saying is that I'm not allowed to join a conversation and state my opinion on an open forum if it has already been said? Please correct me if i'm wrong.
Also what do you mean by me saying it 'in a less preferable way to you'? Did I say something wrong?
see? you just did it again, thats exactly what Arc just said >_< thats bugging me... idk, maybe im just pissed at the world but I only need to be asked and/or told things once :T if I dont understand or dont agree, I will say so...
I have no idea why you think what I said suggests that I know better than a child's parents how to raise them, I really cant make heads or tails of it. I really dont feel like discussing it either... so unless it is really bothering you, I hope you don't mind dropping it. I am sorry you feel that way, thats not what I meant.
less preferable way means, I respect Arc, he talks to me with respect even if i am being stubborn, confusing, and/or big-headed. He is a wonderful person that way, and i feel bad whenever I argue with him... you, I feel everything you say is in condescension, and it strikes me as hurtful and mean. Im not saying that is what you are going for, or that you are in any way doing it on purpose... thats just how I feel when you talk to me... to be completely honest, it is probably because of how I was brought up, my parents would say things over and over and treat me like i was stupid no matter if I did the right thing or understood so you repeating everything is probably what is triggering it. I cant say for sure, all I can say is that I get really angry with you, and i only get angry in a direct defense to when I am hurt... so im sorry for lashing out.
Me and arc posted at the same time and I didn't see his post until i had already posted mine. That wasn't my fault.
I'm not being condescending, I'm just saying what I think and, unless I've made a mistake, all the things I've said to you specifically have been respectful. A lot of what i've said had been generally aimed at everyone who's reading the thread not just you and Arc.
I have a lot of respect for you so If it seemed that I didn't then I apologise.
Well like I said, it could just be me... I have a tendancey to get b!tchy sometimes where I am frustrated over life in general and I start taking it out on everyone, it wouldnt be the first time I had to apologize to everyone on the forum <_<
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